Losing Mom: A Journey Through Grief (Part 11)

 July 28, 2021 - Mom's Birthday


Happy 52nd and 1st birthday, Momma.

You would have been 53 today.  Instead, you are eternally 52.  And it's your first birthday in heaven, which is so unbelievable.  I hope you're celebrating with today by hugging your beloved dad and drinking all the Coca Cola you desire, the caffeine can't keep you up any longer 💙

I tend to consider myself a pretty good writer, but I honestly could never express my emotions more clearly than Ben Platt has for me through his beautiful song In Case You Don't Live Forever.  I often tell my friend Emily how terrible of a daughter I feel the longer you're gone.  I think of everything I had to pick up doing around the house, and feel awful for not helping you more without your asking.  Sometimes I feel like I'm doing a lot of it alone, and I can't help but feel how full your plate must've been doing it all alone and raising 3 kids.

I never ever ever took the time to tell you how much I love and appreciate you.  How honored I am that God blessed me to be your daughter.  And now I don't have that chance...

Learn from me (and the much wiser Ben Platt), and tell your loved ones how you feel about them every chance you get - you know, in case they don't live forever...  Much love to you all 💕

Happy birthday Momma.  I miss you loads.  I love you more than you'd ever wrap your head around.


In Case You Don't Live Forever by Ben Platt

You put all your faith in my dreams
You gave me the world that I wanted
What did I do to deserve you?
I follow your steps with my feet
I walk on the road that you started
I need you to know that I heard you, every word
I've waited way too long to say
Everything you mean to me
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you now
I love you more than you'll ever wrap your head around
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you the truth
I'm everything that I am because of you
I, I've carried this song in my mind
Listen, it's echoing in me
But I haven't helped you to hear it
We, we've only got so much time
I'm pretty sure it would kill me
If you didn't know the pieces of me are pieces of you
I've waited way too long to say
Everything you mean to me
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you now
I love you more than you'll ever wrap your head around
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you the truth
I'm everything that I am because of you
I have a hero whenever I need one
I just look up to you and I see one
I'm a man 'cause you taught me to be one
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you now
I love you more than you'll ever wrap your head around
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you the truth
I'm everything that I am
Whoa... whoa...
In case you don't live forever, let me tell you the truth
As long as I'm here as I am, so are you

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