"No Message is Also a Message": Why it Should Cease to Exist
If you have ever been ghosted, you know how absolutely saddening, confusing, and honestly annoying it is - to suddenly be ignored after x amount of time speaking to someone - it doesn't do a persons mentality well.
To be a ghost-er requires a whole other level of cowardice, in my personal opinion. To give your time and attention to someone, but not have the audacity to offer an explanation is really lackluster on your part. I don't care if you spoke for two days or two years, humans deserve honesty and respect.
Unless it is clearly stated before-hand, and agreed upon by both parties, that something will not continue past a night, then whatever. However, if you interact multiple times, then suddenly are not feeling it anymore, speak up, don't just disappear. Not only is that incredibly rude, but it also gives you a ghost-er reputation (which is not as cool as you seem to think it is).
And in your explanation speech or message (which should always be said) please refrain from over-compensating on the sadness by trying to make the other party feel good. The other party does not want to know how great you think they are, they just want to know what changed and why you're leaving. And that's good enough, leave it at that, the "feel good" conversation hurts more than helps.
I feel as though there isn't much left to say on this topic, which shouldn't even be a topic to begin with, because this is all quite straight-forward to me. Treat people like human beings. Be respectful. Be honest. Actively listen to people, and refrain from interjection. Above all else, even if you do feel as though you have to let someone go, do it kindly. There is no reason to ghost people, or treat others unjustly. We all have feelings - express your own - I'm sure you'll be surprised how much others relate to and respect yours.
*Disclaimer: This opinion is exclusively my own, and you are welcome to disagree.*
To be a ghost-er requires a whole other level of cowardice, in my personal opinion. To give your time and attention to someone, but not have the audacity to offer an explanation is really lackluster on your part. I don't care if you spoke for two days or two years, humans deserve honesty and respect.
Unless it is clearly stated before-hand, and agreed upon by both parties, that something will not continue past a night, then whatever. However, if you interact multiple times, then suddenly are not feeling it anymore, speak up, don't just disappear. Not only is that incredibly rude, but it also gives you a ghost-er reputation (which is not as cool as you seem to think it is).
And in your explanation speech or message (which should always be said) please refrain from over-compensating on the sadness by trying to make the other party feel good. The other party does not want to know how great you think they are, they just want to know what changed and why you're leaving. And that's good enough, leave it at that, the "feel good" conversation hurts more than helps.
I feel as though there isn't much left to say on this topic, which shouldn't even be a topic to begin with, because this is all quite straight-forward to me. Treat people like human beings. Be respectful. Be honest. Actively listen to people, and refrain from interjection. Above all else, even if you do feel as though you have to let someone go, do it kindly. There is no reason to ghost people, or treat others unjustly. We all have feelings - express your own - I'm sure you'll be surprised how much others relate to and respect yours.
*Disclaimer: This opinion is exclusively my own, and you are welcome to disagree.*
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